Definition of Communication

Umm, would you please explain?
You are spewing nonsense.
I really can't follow.
Your logic is flawed.

Maybe you are uncertain of the definition.
The OED might be useful.
Communication: (in our context)
The successful conveying or sharing of ideas and feelings

Ok now that we have a common base.
Lets examine this definition.
Starting with conveying or sharing.
This requires words.
A week of silence.
Kinda a fail on that front.
Would you concede to that?
It also requires listening.
Judging by your response.
I'm not certain you actually heard me.

We'll move onto ideas and feelings.
So with our words we explain our feelings.
We discuss our concerns, our issues.
Often we can also express our pleasure.
As the situation requires.
In our case, I simply expressed a feeling.
There was no judgment attached.
Just a fact, "I am unhappy."
I have the right to say this.
Despite your belief that I don't.
I am permitted to explain why.
You don't have to agree per se.
But you do have to allow me to speak.
And, of course
I have to offer you the same.
Well, the truth is we don't have to.
As you have shown me.
Unfortunately, the result is catastrophic.
Wouldn't you agree?

That leaves us with successful.
Again, consulting the OED.
To ensure we accurately understand.
Accomplishing a desired aim or result.
Now I can assure you.
My desired result was not achieved.
Perhaps I was not clear enough.
I am unhappy with the situation.
I would like to have a discussion regarding this.
If your desired aim was to attack me.
Mission accomplished, congrats.
I certainly feel horrible.
If your goal was to deny my rights.
Then once again I congratulate you.
I have been effectively silenced.

Alright,
We have gone through the definition.
I can safely say.
We had a major communication breakdown.
Would you say the same?

OK, one more time.
Lets examine the definition.

What is your goal or aim?
Mine is to express my feelings of unhappiness.
And to set up a discussion.
So I may explain why I feel this way.
At a time when I am not in high emotions.
And when you aren't either.

How would you like to achieve your goal?
I would like to do this by putting forward my issue.
I don't want to take you off guard
However, I'm not able to talk about it.
Not constructively and respectfully at least.
I request to talk about it later.
When we are both receptive and calm.
This could be achieved via phone, email, whatever.

Lets decide what successful looks like for us.
When one of us gets our way completely?
I don't agree with that.
To me successful would mean we each make concessions.
We create an environment that is agreeable to all.
As in compromise, or collaborate if you prefer.

Now if we look at our situation again.
Do you really believe we have engaged in effective communication?
From my perspective this has been an epic fail.
Neither party is happy.
That is a good sign of a communication breakdown.
There are consequences to this failure.
In our case, pretty dire.

If you aren't willing to engage in effective communication.
Then, I'm afraid, I must disconnect.
If you are incapable of listening.
Then I have no desire to speak.
If you choose to insult, blame, and attack me.
Then I will no longer listen.

I am removing myself from this situation.
Until you are ready to be reasonable.
When you become capable of being respectful.
I will be thrilled to engage in a constructive dialog.
Once you learn to temper your emotions.
And act from a wise mind state.
Come and find me.